I came across an article today that said that less than 1% of the population is professional athletes. Clearly, it takes a certain breed to become a professional athlete. First of all, genetics plays a big part in this. You have to be born with the proper physique plus a hell of a lot of natural talent. Then, you have to begin training at a young age, devoting a ridiculous amount of time to learning the sport. You have to play in high school, some in college, get drafted, play in the minors, whatever it takes… It sounds like a lot of work to me. Basically, what I am getting at here, is that if you are banking on a career as a professional athlete, good luck. Maybe you should plan on winning the lottery instead. Your chances are probably similar in achieving one or the other. Or just join the rest of us on your couch on Sunday and watch professional football rather than pursuing it. It’s a lot more enjoyable.
When I worked as the Director of the daycare, I spent a lot of time observing the mothers that came to drop off their children. I spent time chatting with most of them as they dropped off their kids and I even got to know some of them very well. When I became pregnant, I started paying even more attention. I was taking mental notes – what car seats they used, what bottles were most popular, how they handled difficult behaviors from their children in public. I wanted to be as prepared as possible.
When Greyson was born, I realized just how difficult it can be. Everything is a challenge when you are adjusting to parenthood. When I returned to work, I was over-tired, over-worked, stressed, and frazzled. I felt like I could relate to most of the mothers whose children attended the center. They gave me looks of pity in the beginning, understanding why my clothes were not ironed and why I looked exhausted. There is definitely an unspoken sisterhood between all mothers – working mothers, stay-at-home mothers, single mothers – You don’t have to say anything. Just a smile lets a fellow mother know you understand what she is going through. At least 99.5% of us belong that sisterhood.
And then there is less than 1% of mothers who are different. It’s almost like they are born with more natural talent than the rest of us. In an earlier post, I mentioned that if a mother tells you that everything is perfect, the baby is sleeping great, and their marriage is better than ever – I said that they are most likely lying. And most of the time, they are. However, there is a breed of professional mothers who I think are actually telling the truth. There is one or two of them that attended my center. I swear, these two women came in every morning dressed to the nines. Their hair and makeup looked great, they dressed fashionably, and what’s most mind-blowing – they were carrying their babies in four inch heels. One of these moms in particular, she had four children. FOUR. She looked amazing, worked full-time, and was always happy. And she had four children. It’s like these woman trained their whole lives in how to be a perfect mother. If there were mommy Olympics, these women would blow everyone out of the water. In events like housework, parenting, career, sex life – they’d win gold in all of them.
Do a quick Google search on “how mothers can have it all.” You will find a million articles written about how mothers can balance work and home life and do it with expertise. The 1% of women that I am talking about here are the ones who wrote those articles (note: some of these articles are written by men…. which is just wrong…) Next time you are out in public, take a look around for the mother toting around a small brood of children, all dressed nicely, all clean, and all happy. Ask her for a photo and an autograph because this woman is part of the elite 1%.
If you are one of the normal 99% of mothers who are usually frazzled and exhausted, don’t feel bad. Remind yourself that less than 1% of the population makes it to professional parenthood. Let’s agree to simply admiring these women as we do our grocery shopping on Sundays and stick to playing the lottery and watching football instead.
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