Since my son was born, I’ve learned a lot of important lessons about parenting – mostly that kids are a lot of fucking work, I’ll never sleep through the night again, and almost every task takes at least three times as long to complete when you’ve got a toddler in tow. However, I have to say that one of the most useful things that I have learned over the culmination of 21 exhausting months is that a large amount of wine will erase all problems at the end of a bad day.
But in all seriousness, I have actually learned one important lesson that seems worth sharing. So here goes. In parenting, there are good days and there are bad days. I consider a day successful if my son was mostly happy and if I am still awake at 8:30 without feeling the need to kill anyone who considers striking up a conversation with me. Today, for instance, was one of those days. My son spent the day playing with toys and enjoying activities. He ate well, slept well, and didn’t cry a tear. On bad days, I count the minutes until my husband gets home from work so that I can hand over our child and lock myself in the bathroom with a glass wine and a magazine just for the sake of five minutes alone. On days like this, I feel like my son has been clinging to my legs with every step I take and has spent several hours whining and crying for seemingly ridiculous reasons.
It’s as if one day I’m praising a higher power that I have such a happy and well-adjusted child and other days I’m almost positive that he’s possessed. So, what is it that makes every day so very different??? In my opinion, it’s all about finding a balance.
Managing motherhood is tricky. Whether you are working, staying at home, or working at home, it’s hard to find a balance between attending to your child while maintaining some sense of self. Sometimes, I spend all day trying to run errands, clean the house, and answer e-mails. These tend to be the bad days – the day when my son is a terror. He gets bored and he feels ignored. On the other hand, there are times when I spend the entire day entertaining Grey with exciting art projects, play dates, and trips to story time at the library. These are the days when I feel exhausted, when I’m desperate for some adult time. And then there are the best days – the times when I find that perfect balance between mommy time and baby time. My son and I might spend a half hour playing toys together in the morning, followed by a half hour of “me time” spent watching the Today show while drinking coffee.
The days that we find that balance are amazing. I enjoy my time at home with Grey and I don’t feel burned out by the time my husband gets home from work. It’s about planning a half hour of Play Doh with Grey followed by fifteen minutes for scrolling Facebook while the baby plays alone. These are the little things that keep me sane on the days that I am home.
In honor of this realization about the best way to manage motherhood on a daily basis, I’ve decided to add a section of my website that will display photos about how I am keeping the balance between being a good mommy and being a normal human being. I want to share the awesome projects and activities that my son and I love doing together PLUS the little moments of my day that are dedicated to taking a quick mommy break. Hopefully, adding some of these things to your day will help you manage the craziness of motherhood, too.
So take a moment to check out my “Managing Motherhood” page, share it with your friends, and enjoy. 🙂
Got some tips for managing motherhood and finding a balance? Leave me a comment below!